Friday, February 24, 2012
Dorothea's Struggle with Dealing with Casaubon's Death
With the death of Casaubon it hit me hard, not because I was upset that he had passed, or that I expected it, but the way Dorothea might be feeling. Though their marriage wasn't the greatest she still loved him and it showed regardless of how he treated her. I'll be honest I did get teary eyed as I read that he had passed because Dorothea reminded me of myself 4 years ago. Ryan (My fiance) passed away the weekend before our wedding, everything was planned and everything was looking up, I thought things would turn around, and one by one every piece would somehow come together. Boy, was I wrong. When you lose someone that your extremely close to..a part of you goes with them. You feel pain, with every thought, and often times you wish you could just hear his voice or see his smile. This is only the begining for Dorothea and every little reminder will make her think of what used to be. But it will also open so many doors; one thing that happened to me was that I found a new meaning to life and to what it meant to be happy even if you had to smile through the hard times. One thing I like about Dorothea is that she is strong and for now being a widow it might make her bitter, and even keep her from having that close relationship with Celia, it will shape her character in such a positive way. Going through something like this helps you mature and brings confidence into your life, yes that confidence took half the time but it brought me to where I am today.
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I appreciate you sharing your personal story! It helps me understand Dorothea's situation. Although Dorothea and Casaubon's marriage wasn't great, the two encountered each other on a daily basis. Dorothea especially strove to help her husband and make their marriage work. Any type of loss is tragic.
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ReplyDeleteI also appreciate that you took the time to make a connection between your own life and Dorothea's life. When I think of the Dorothea and Casaubon relationship, I cannot help but think about the fact that there are many different types of love. There is clearly a distinction between being in love, loving someone, and learning to love someone. In Dorothea's situation, I think that she was learning to love Casaubon. She tried to make the best of the situation by seeing things from Casaubon's point of view and figuring out ways to make things better. So, even though she and Casaubon did not have the best union, they still spent time together and formed a bond that connects them in life and in death.
ReplyDeleteI also appreciate you sharing your personal story. And I think you are right--it is definitely sad that Casaubon has died, and died alone on a bench with a sad heart. I think that Dorothea obviously cared for him (even if it wasn't a deep, romantic love), as evidenced by how sad she is to return to Lowick now that he isn't there. Like Maria said, there are different kinds of love and affection in this book.
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