The Importance of Self-Worth

I would have to admit that this novel has made me angry, has brought some personal events in my life back into the picture and it's honestly come down to it, that I just really want to throw the book at Rochester, St. John or even Jane for that matter. While reading this it made me feel as if my own opinion, and even voice was being limited. I feel as if the way Rochester would speak to Jane before she left was like he didn't want to hear what she had to say. Meaning, he would listen but he probably only heard certain parts that he wanted to hear. With St. John (SinJin) how he was compelled and basically forced Jane to marry him, even though she said no, he still insisted which made her and even the audience uncomfortable--it just screamed red flag, come on Jane you be see it! It's like in society, most people see us as a number or just a name. With no moral structure or even importantance in the world, which I feel/should be the exact opposite. Every person, female or male is unique and I think your self-worth and respecting who are is more important than allowing someone else try to change you and make you live up to their standards. I'm someone who respects herself, and who has accepted who she is; regardless of who has tried to change and even bring her down. I'm finally comfortable in my own skin, and though it's taken awhile; I would never allow someone especially a man to degrade me nor change me. Jane, seems to be confused and with the respect of not knowing who she really is. She seems to find out her independence once she leaves Thornfield but is quickly "shut down" by St. John by him putting so much pressure onto her and saying that if you "live with me, marry me you can have anything" which I feel also leads to him treating her as if she will be given everything, but in the end won't have value too it; it seems that she also settles to make other people happy. She may do this because she feels comfortable in going back to something/someone who she confides in or knows her pretty well; and that she might feel that she won't find someone else. One thing I've learned through out the past couple years is to not settle for anything less than you deserve and to know what you truly want, and sometimes when you don't it leads you to so many new opportunities that you will grow from.